No Thinking

I am late with the thought of the day because my brain needs a rest. I can't seem to focus on any one thing. I need a mindless task like shelling peas or folindging towels. Do you ever get that way? Here's a thought, let's take a day for no thinking, just living and loving.

How Happy Are You?

I want you to think about that question for a good minute. Are you happy? Yes? Are you happy in a it’s as good as it gets sort of happy? Are you a deep down happy? High on life happy? If you are surface happy, you can do better. Like if things are just mediocre … Continue reading How Happy Are You?

Listen

Listen to your children, your person, and yourself. Listen to the cries and laughter of the humans you love most. Listen to the still small voice of God. If we stop and really listen we can hear the answers we seek. It’s in the tone of voice and in the silence between the words. Yes … Continue reading Listen

Guard Peace

Make peace a priority. Even if it is just a few minutes each day. Create a space that is just for peace. Tell you family and friends that this time, this space is sacred to you. Do not compromise on that time and space. Don't say to any human, animal, or negative thought, "Yes you … Continue reading Guard Peace

It’s Here!

I told you, dear reader, something new was coming. I have officially said goodbye to Medium.com. Don't worry we are still friends. I have decided that my work needs to be here where my readers do not have to pay an arbitrary fee. I will be accepting submissions for this new online publication. Soon you … Continue reading It’s Here!

Change is Scary

I am in the throws of a change here in our home on the great communicator called the internet. We are shifting some publications to make it easier for you, dear reader,to access them. I am excited and scared. The What ifs are huge. I know it will appear smooth and easy for you if … Continue reading Change is Scary

Do you Om…Ommmm?

Prayer and meditation lower blood pressure. Studies find that religious and spiritual people are healthier than those who are not. Prayer is a conversation with the spiritual power greater than the soul. Meditation is a monologue within the soul. Both connect the human with creation and the spiritual realm. It is not about what you … Continue reading Do you Om…Ommmm?

Forgive them for Yourself

Forgiveness is good for your heart -- literally. One study from the Journal of Behavioral Medicine found forgiveness to be associated with lower heart rate and blood pressure as well as stress relief. This can bring long-term health benefits for your heart and overall health. Gandhi was quoted as saying, "The weak can never forgive. … Continue reading Forgive them for Yourself

Why can’t humans just be kind?

It isn’t difficult to be kind. You don’t even have to like a person to be kind to them. Kindness is an action you choose to do. It matters not what the other person does or says to you. Kindness has been called a state of being as in, “She was kind.” When in reality … Continue reading Why can’t humans just be kind?

Homeless Can Happen to anyone, even You.

On this day some years ago, I was moving my now husband into my apartment. He was living in a car at no fault of his own. Circumstances and a not so nice person had caused him to be in a bad situation that was temporary. He and I both knew he was in one … Continue reading Homeless Can Happen to anyone, even You.

Father’s Day

Today we honor fathers. This is not a day to honor moms who act as dad. Sit this one out, Ladies. Not all fathers are good and that is a sad thing. I am blessed to have a Dad who loves me. I am also lucky to have an amazing husband who is a good … Continue reading Father’s Day

Look A Man

It is no secret that I have been married more times than the average human. I was never looking for a husband when I found one. I got married for all the wrong reasons. Maybe if I share them with you, you will not make the same mistakes as I did. But wait you say....Aren't … Continue reading Look A Man

Believe Them

If someone says they love you believe them the first time they say it. Give love some time to see if they still mean it. Trust is a choice. It’s not always easy. Try to love even if you’re not sure if they love you back. Then wait. A human’s true intentions don’t stay hidden. … Continue reading Believe Them

We All Roll

I had a moment when I looked in the mirror. I was disgusted with what I saw. It took a minute for me to remind myself everyone has rolls and a few more when they bend over. I am just starting my path to health. I need to give myself a break. It will take … Continue reading We All Roll

We are All a Mess

I heard someone say, "God, why is her life so perfect? How does she have a handle on her life and I don't?" We all have that one friend who seems to have it all together. That woman with the seemingly perfect life. I can promise you her life is not prefect. She is not … Continue reading We are All a Mess

Mother Nature is Talking

Can you hear that? Listen to the sounds. The noise.   It is the sound of life as we know it falling down around us. We are no longer safe in our own homes. We can’t go to the store without worrying if we will catch a deadly virus that we will bring home with the … Continue reading Mother Nature is Talking

That’s What I’ll Be When I Grow Up

I love the Red Hat ladies. They seem to not have a care if people think they are crazy old women. Most of the ones I know are crazy and really don't care what you think. I wonder when they were little girls if they wanted to be confident old women one day? We teach … Continue reading That’s What I’ll Be When I Grow Up

Bless Your Wild Heart

I am about to shake up the world. Maybe not the entire world but my little corner of it. Why should we assume that the world as we know it would fall apart if we reveal our true selves to it? My husband said to me, "Look at Ann Rice, the author. She wrote for … Continue reading Bless Your Wild Heart

Self Time is not Selfish

This thought is a difficult one. You need to take time for yourself. You also need to make sure you don't neglect the people you love. You can do it. Give yourself a bit of time. Schedule it if you have too. Steal a few minutes here and there if you must. Give yourself a … Continue reading Self Time is not Selfish

It is Today

If you only do one productive thing today let it be this... Today, let go of things that no longer serve the good for you. If the thing no longer fits your dream, your happiness or your life goal, let go of it. This includes people, jobs, things in your home, your home, any thing … Continue reading It is Today

Porn

Now that I have your attention... Shock words like "porn", "sex", "free", "money", "racism", and others make humans do a double take when the word is written or spoken. If a proclaimed Christian says a shock word like "porn" people get confused. Humans have preconceived ideas in their head about how religious people should speak … Continue reading Porn

Hey, That’s Not Right

Listen up, all of you, humans who have been hurt because of who you are, I see all the hurt and grief caused directly or indirectly due to you being you. I do not care what the cause, real or imaginary is for such mistreatment. This one human, me, I do not condone it. Life … Continue reading Hey, That’s Not Right

A Memory Failure

It is sometimes difficult to remember when you are living through a challenging situation that bad times pass eventually. Memory fails us when we need it to remind us that bad times are not a permanent thing. Good things will come to us if we keep going and do not give up. When you think … Continue reading A Memory Failure

Happy Book Birthday!

Happy Book Birthday toWE WILL GET THEREthe first Perdido Key Novel by Lori O'Garareleased June 24, 2017 You get the Birthday Gift!Our top-selling novella ebooks are on sale for $.99for a limited time. The TwoThe Dark BeginningThe Extant (Lori's Favorite!)  These books are called compendium books. They have characters from O'Gara novels currently published and not published … Continue reading Happy Book Birthday!

Adding Sugar Makes Things Better

Have you ever tasted something and thought, "Gross, this needs some sugar." Then you add sugar and it make the next bite sweeter. What if you could add a litte sugar to a bad attitude? "Here, open your mouth?" Just pour sugar into the person who's attitude is a bit bitter and sweeten them right … Continue reading Adding Sugar Makes Things Better

Later Becomes Never

If you don't believe me? Remember when you asked your mom if you could do some fun thing and she said "Later." Then you wait and wait....then the thing never happens. You ask mom again and she says no. Just saying, "Oh I will do it later" is like saying, when I get to it. … Continue reading Later Becomes Never

Where are you going?

There are so many wonderful places to see. You are only limited by your imagination. Get out and go see what is around you. Do not live in fear inside walls. That is a sad way to exist. Travel, live, learn, love and experience all there is to life. Be brave and mindful of your … Continue reading Where are you going?

Words Matter

There are about a million words in the English language. We currently only use around eight hundred thousand words. We humans get stuck in comfort zones and stick to what we know. We do not, on a regular basis, push ourselves to learn new things, to use new methods, or to think new thoughts. Even … Continue reading Words Matter

What do you want to hear?

Do you want to hear that everything is going back to normal soon when we all know that it will never be normal again? Do you want to hear we are all in the chaos together when we all feel so alone? Do you want to hear all lives matter when you should already know … Continue reading What do you want to hear?

How are you really?

Her: With all you have to accomplish in a day, how are you really? Me: I'm fine. Her: Really? How many of us answer the how are you question with, "Fine." When chances are you like me are tired, hungry, happy, sad, or some other things other than "Fine." How would our interactions go if … Continue reading How are you really?

Summer Illusion

Looking out my window at the sunshine it is difficult to comprehend that much of the world is in chaos. Life is beautiful where I am. Not far is the shore with serene blue waves and sugar white sand. Heaven on earth. If I stop my thoughts there, close my eyes and breathe in the … Continue reading Summer Illusion

Memory Serves Us

2020 has proven to be a year we will all want to forget. War, famine, pandemic, racism, brutality, wildfires...and the year is only five months in. There is more to come that is certian. The truth is that yes this year has been over eventful, but there have been other years like this. We tend … Continue reading Memory Serves Us

Born or Chosen Family

Today, May 30th is about family for me. My husband and I decided to make our separate lives a family on this day a few years ago. No, it is not our wedding anniversary. That came later. This day we made a decision to ignore anything that did not align with love. Today would have … Continue reading Born or Chosen Family

Do you Believe in Luck?

If a circus performer wanted to be sure he or she would have good luck during a performance, they would keep a single hair of an elephant's tail in their pocket. We are given free will to pursue our life within the confines of our situation. We can change our situation. It is not that … Continue reading Do you Believe in Luck?

Here’s a Thought, Follow Through

When you say you are going to do something, do it. When you don't follow through you become non trustworthy. At the very least if you change your mind, be adult enough to say, that you changed your mind. Things happen and situations change. Be a responsible human and keep your word.

God, what are you doing?

Do you ever get the impression that something is about to change in your life? It is like a whisper on the edge of your conscious or a shadow you can't quite see. I have the feeling that something is happening. I am not sure what. I do know that prayer works and I am … Continue reading God, what are you doing?

Intimacy is Like Air

I have had times in my life when I was alone. Not for long. I do not like being alone and yet, I crave alone time. Years ago I had a therapist tell me that I was, am, an intimacy addict. I love alone time. I like peace and quiet. I read a lot. I … Continue reading Intimacy is Like Air

Two Hands

I never realized as a right handed person, how much I do with my left hand. Adjusting to using one hand is difficult. Then I thought about people, like injured veterans who lost limbs or were damaged in some other way and my small carpal tunnel injury pales in significance. We use our hands for … Continue reading Two Hands

Change is a Process

My husband, Brendan O'Gara posted on Facebook, "This, this is your life. By changing nothing, nothing changes. If you want to see a change in your life, your have to make the first change. Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be. Anyone can change." What do you want to change? It takes … Continue reading Change is a Process

As I Lay Sleeping…

As you read this I am sleeping. I am getting my hand fixed. It's a common thing. People like me who work with their hands wear them out. I have put this off a bit longer than I should have, but that's normal for me. I have put my health on the bottom of my … Continue reading As I Lay Sleeping…

I Have No Idea

No, really I don't. I have no idea why people make things so difficult. Just do what has to be done and leave the extra baggage on the side of the road. What happened was, I wanted to change something. Very simple, click clack boom. The person who was supposed to help me change it … Continue reading I Have No Idea

Gloomy Day

Today is a dark, cloudy day I know we need the rain. I am just wishing for sunshine. It is easy to feel sad on days with no sun. When someone you know is looking sad say, "Cheer up!" Sometimes humans just can't. Say happy things anyway. On the flip side, you may never know … Continue reading Gloomy Day

Things Happen

As life goes I have a good one, but as normal life goes unexpected things happen. Hence, the reason I am late with my post today. I am proud of myself, I didn't freak out when I didn't get to post on time. I was calm on the outside and screaming inside. I used to … Continue reading Things Happen

Helping Hands

I am a bit nervous about my carpal tunnel surgery on Friday. I know it is a simple procedure, but hey, I only have two hands. I should not to miss a day of publishing the Thought of the Day. I hired a transcriptionist to do the typing. This should be fun. I don't consider … Continue reading Helping Hands

Freedom of Speech

Just because you can say a thing doesn't mean you should. Words are like minutes. Once spoken in a moment it is gone forever. You can't suck it back in your mouth. You can treat it like you never spoke it, if no other human heard it. Written words are a bit different. If you … Continue reading Freedom of Speech

Don’t Argue over the Small Stuff

Why is it that most of the arguments in a home between family are started over small insignificant things? Things like whose turn to clean something, why did that person do the thing, or why did they not do the other thing. When you feel the tingle of that urge to criticise a family member … Continue reading Don’t Argue over the Small Stuff

It’s Friday

We have been conditioned from an early age that Friday starts the weekend. Weekends are for freedom. Work weeks are Monday through Friday. When someone says I have a different work schedule and my Monday is a Thursday, the weirdness of their week seems unnatural to us. What would happen if we had no boundaries … Continue reading It’s Friday

Worry Worry Worry

What does worry do for you really? Not a thing. It is the menacing What if that causes your head to hurt. Thinking about what might happen and not what is actually happening that creates all sorts of problems in humans. I struggle with worry all the time. My mom says that I was a … Continue reading Worry Worry Worry

Late Late Late

Hi, I am late posting here today because I have been working diligently getting my new publication together. I have no deadline. I am just so excited for you to see it! It doesn't matter how much time I have there never seems to be enough time in the day. Can you relate? Watch for … Continue reading Late Late Late