Thoughts

Adulting, Be Radical, Etiquette, Family, God, Honest, Human, Hurt, Kindness, Life, The Right Thing, Truth

Never Seek Revenge

I read a quote today, “Never seek revenge rotten fruit will fall by itself.” As I think about those who have been mean to me, I realize when it all comes down to it, every one of us will get what we deserve. Taking steps to expedite that process for those who did you wrong… Continue reading Never Seek Revenge

Adulting, Aging, Change, Friendship, Life

Friendship is Weird

We find people we want to hang with so we do. Then we discover we like similar stuff so we do that. Then over time we like new stuff and our friend doesn’t like the new things. We are still friends but we don’t do stuff together anymore. See? It’s weird.

Adulting, Devotion, Family, Good Manners, Honest, Kindness, Love

Appreciate Who You Love

So many humans take for granted the people who love them the most. They assume their family and friends will always be there doing what they always do. Don’t make that mistake. Show them you really are thankful for them. That’s that love does.

Adulting, Event, Honest, Human, Hurt, Life

Value of Loss

We had a loss due to a storage unit leaking. My family lost heirlooms, books, clothing, and other things. The insurance company wants me to put a value on these things to file a claim. How can I put a value on my children’s tears, my husband’s grief or my anger for all that is… Continue reading Value of Loss

Adulting, Be Courageous, Change, Goals, Grand Adventure, Honest

I Drink Champagne Now

You used to be my cup of tea but I drink champagne now. One day I woke up and decided I no longer liked lukewarm tea. However my tea would not get hot. It was not behaving like a good tea should. I packed my bags and went on a search for something sweet and… Continue reading I Drink Champagne Now

Adulting, Aging, Honest, Human, Life

ABC song…

I apparently can’t do anything alphabetically without singing the song. I’m an adult. I should be able to do this without signing, but here I am at work signing like a preschooler.

Adulting, Be Courageous, Be Radical, Good Manners, Human, Kindness, Relationships, Truth

Worry is Heavy

Worry is a heavy load. It weighs you down causing clear thought and action difficult. The thing about worrying is it comes on a small bit at a time. Before too long it is so heavy you can only lay in your bed and cry. If you see someone weighed down with worry, do what… Continue reading Worry is Heavy

Adulting, Good Manners, Honest, Human, Kindness, Life, Question Everything

Not Everyone Needs to Know your Story

People are nosy by nature. They want to hear the story. Humans like gossip. They will sometimes ask inappropriate questions to get the scoop. They mean no harm most of the time. They really don’t care about the other humans involved. They just want to know about the drama and what happened. Remember when some… Continue reading Not Everyone Needs to Know your Story

Adulting, Aging, Change, Family, Honest, Human, Life, Thoughts

Memory is a Strange Friend

I am struggling to remember simple things like conversations with my husband from this morning but ask me what I wore to the 8th grade prom I’ll describe it too you down to the pink asymmetrical hemline. Why is memory so weird? I’m worried that like many of my relatives I will develop dementia. Every… Continue reading Memory is a Strange Friend

Adulting, Be Courageous, Be Radical, Grand Adventure, Honest, Human, Life, Thoughts, Trust, Truth

Sometimes You Rest

Even if you have a full calendar, sometimes you have to rest. It may mean you can’t get to that appointment. You may have to say no to doing that favor. You may have to disappoint someone. Sometimes you have to put yourself first. The world won’t end if you just let it all go… Continue reading Sometimes You Rest

Family, Good Manners, Happy, Human, Kindness, Love

Dogs

I was always a cat person. I mean I loved cats. I had a cat since I was six years old. Then I got a dog and my world changed. I am now also a dog person. I still had cats, but dogs treat humans differently than cats. Dogs are love on four feet. They… Continue reading Dogs

Adulting, Be Radical, Goals, Life, Thoughts, Truth

Do Not Stop

When you are working toward a future that you want, do not stop. Keep working towards your goal. One small step forward is still progress. It will not always be easy. In fact I can guarantee you that there will be bad days and tough times. Just keep going. My MeMa said, "Keep going, like… Continue reading Do Not Stop

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Owls are Wise

Some grandmother's collect salt and pepper shakers, porcelain dolls, pace doilies, quilts, or china sets. My grandmother collected all of those things and more but the catch was it must have an owl on it. She collected all things owls. I asked her why she liked owls and she said, "A wise old owl lived… Continue reading Owls are Wise

Adulting, Be Radical, Day Job, Family, Goals, Honest, Human

I Do what I Want

Remember when you were a young human and you said something like, “I can’t wait to be an adult so I can do what I want”? How’s that going for you? If it is going well tell us your secret. All I want to do is spend as much time with my husband and family… Continue reading I Do what I Want

Adulting, Be Radical, Change, Goals, Human, Life

Don’t Settle Unless You Must

Five years ago my husband and I were in a situation where we had to get a house fast. So in a matter of six days we got a house to rent. We settled for what we could afford and what we could find in a hurry. We’re always told to live our best life.… Continue reading Don’t Settle Unless You Must

Adulting, Be Radical, Focused Simplicity, Goals, Human, Peace, Thoughts, Wait

A Quiet Mind isn’t an Empty Mind

In today’s world it’s difficult to settle your mind. We are always so busy and going all the time that our brain is over stimulated. We are constantly hit with screens and sounds. Practice quieting your mind. Focus on the emptiness. Science has proven that men can sit and think nothing and women have to… Continue reading A Quiet Mind isn’t an Empty Mind

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Home

Home is a place. Home is a feeling of belonging to a family. Home is that safe peace when held in the arms of the one who loves you most. For some humans the thought of home is terrifying. If there is no love where they are told is home, it can be deviation and… Continue reading Home

Adulting, Etiquette, Good Manners, Human, Life, Respect

Be Responsible for Your Own Stuff

If it is your mess, clean it up. If it is your problem, fix it. If the things on the floor are yours, clean it up. Do not expect other humans to clean up after you, fix your mistakes, or take care of your stuff. That's all you baby.

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Can We Just be Honest?

If you want, need, hate, love, or crave something just say it. Humans are so worried about what other people think they walk lightly around the truth. Just be honest already. If you are honest and the other person doesn't like what you said at least you can say that you are speaking truth. You… Continue reading Can We Just be Honest?

Adulting, Children, Goals, Honest, Life

Side Effects of Convenience

I saw the strangest thing today a teenager who could not operate a computer. His grandma said it’s because he has always done everything on his phone. I wonder how he will make it in college when he has to type a term paper? Are we crippling our future generations by giving them too many… Continue reading Side Effects of Convenience

Adulting, Dreams, Florida, Home, Human, Life

It’s Hot

I live in Florida and it is hot. Not just hot but humid and hot. It’s like living in a sauna. What did people do before AC? Thank you Mr Willis Carrier. What do you do to stay cool? Are you one of the lucky humans who live in a constant temperate climate? Anyway, I… Continue reading It’s Hot

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Is Patriotism Dead

It seems to me that people do not respect the fact that no matter who the president is or what color your state is we Americans are blessed to be in the greatest country on the planet. People come here because it’s better than where they left. Spend five minutes with a person seeking American… Continue reading Is Patriotism Dead

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Rain Again

Where I live it is the rainy season. Every day mid afternoon it rains. I usually enjoy rain, however these days I am tired of rain. I am ready for it to stop. I know rain is important. Without it humans would die. Do we have to have all the rain in one month? Ugh!… Continue reading Rain Again

Adulting, Children, Goals, Grand Adventure, Home

Decluttering is Necessary Evil

I would much rather be sitting on the beach sipping mojitos. Where am I you ask? Sitting in the dining room of your new home sifting through boxes and decluttering things. Why do humans have so much stuff in their homes? I have environmental anxiety. When my home feels out of control, no matter what… Continue reading Decluttering is Necessary Evil

Adulting, Be Courageous, Change, Goals, Good Stress, Grand Adventure, Human, Life, Peace, Stand on Truth

Discipline is painful

I am not talking about the switch grandma put on your bare legs. Yeah, that hurt. Discipline to improve yourself to grow as a decent human hurts too. Making a plan, seeing it through, doing the right thing, and improving is worth all the pain it takes to get there. After the pain comes the… Continue reading Discipline is painful

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Stress is Weird

Ever seen a funeral where people start laughing? Ever seen a person colapse with tears? Ever seen someone so frustrated that they growl? Stress is a weird thing. It demands attention. If you ignore it you will get sick or have a mental breakdown. Stress shows up when life is going well and when it… Continue reading Stress is Weird

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Choose Your Humans

There is nothing wrong with being selective about who you choose to be with or who you choose to have in your life. You can respectfully decline invitations to protect yourself. Don’t apologize for being choosy.

Adulting, Change, Family, Goals, Grand Adventure, Home, Human, The O'Gara Clan

A Full House

My house is a shambled mess right now. We just moved and are unpacking. I was grumbling about all we have to do and my momma said… “A full house means you have a life”. That is one of the best things my momma every said to me. She is right! It’s a fantastic sight.… Continue reading A Full House

Day Job, Etiquette, Honest, Human, Truth

Perception and Emotional Response

I hired a person to do a big cleaning job. I told them it was going to be a lot of work. I wasn’t getting into the why of it with a cleaning crew, but I told them it was not normal for my family to leave such a mess. I offered to pay more… Continue reading Perception and Emotional Response

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What is a Father?

A father can make offspring and walk away. It is not easy to stay and raise your child. It takes work and commitment. Unfortunate for some kids those two things are not required to make children. Humans can make babies and walk away. They can give their children away to others. Humans have a choose… Continue reading What is a Father?

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Bone Weary

Some humans have a tendency to keep going until they drop from exhaustion. Others work for a bit rest them work some more. As long as work gets done, do it your way.

Adulting, Good Manners, Home, Human, Kindness, Peace, Respect, The Right Thing, Truth

Everyone Needs a Home

We finally bought a house, well almost, we close soon. If a human doesn't have security they can't focus on anything else. Food and shelter are the deepest need we have. If you can help a fellow human with either of those, you should without expectation of repayment. It is the right thing to do… Continue reading Everyone Needs a Home

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New and Old Friends

Humans are communal. As much as some of us want to be hermits and loners, we by nature want and need contact with other humans. We gravitate to certain individuals who share common likes and dislikes. If we are lucky we find those who we can attach too for a long term friendship. Sometimes we… Continue reading New and Old Friends

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Perspective

Life is all about perspective. Things can be in the preverbal toilet and yet if you can find a happy reason to climb out, there you go. Perspective. I am alive. What's the alternative? Death. The opposite of alive is dead. See? It is all a matter of perspective. Got it?

Adulting, Change, Faith, Grand Adventure, Thoughts, Trust, Truth

Out of Control

The older I get the more I come to realize so much of life is beyond my control. What is in my control are my emotions, my reactions, and my choices. That’s all I got. The rest I leave to divine intervention.

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Announcement

The O’Gara Clan is relocating this week. There might be delays in posting on our blog. Thank you for your patience. We can’t wait to share this next adventure with you Dear Reader.

Adulting, Be Courageous, Be Radical, Dreams, Goals, Grand Adventure, Life, Question Everything, Truth

Going Through The Motions

Life is more than going through the motions of living. You know what I mean....get up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch some programming, clean up, do some laundry, go to bed....on and on same thing day after day after day until...you die. No, life is more than simply existing. Life is exciting,… Continue reading Going Through The Motions

Adulting, Be Radical, Believe, Honest, Love, Truth

Everyday Love

We should teach our children that fairytale romance is not real. Don’t believe for one second that love is fake. Love is real but perfect love that descends on you like a sweet song with sprinkled flower petals that smells of chocolate is not love. That’s Hollywood. Real love is work. It’s full out communication… Continue reading Everyday Love

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Commitment

Some humans have trouble with commitment. They want all the rewards and fun of the steady thing and the freedom of no strings attached at the same time. There is true agony sometimes in the choosing. We are taught that it is an either/or choice. The truth is it can be both. If commitment is… Continue reading Commitment

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Relocating is a Bear

We are moving next week. Packing and cleaning and sorting, oh my! So many things to remember. Did we call the let me fix that for you company? Did we schedule the window shiners and grout washers? Do we empty the freezer now or wait for a full moon? Do we really need all this… Continue reading Relocating is a Bear

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Because you Can

Humans are not always good at decision making. We often make decisions based on emotional response. We often decide to do things just because we can do it. We don’t consider that maybe we would be better off if we did not do it. Just because you can do a thing doesn’t mean you should.… Continue reading Because you Can

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Change is Required

When someone looks at you and says, "Wow you have changed." Say, "Yes, we humans do that." People are supposed to change. If you stay the same you get bored and stagnant. Life would be dull and colorless. Change is is a good thing. Embrace it. Move toward it. Learn to like change.

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Must Love Dogs

I talk a lot about humans and the importance of loving each other. Actually, I am an all life loving human including animals. I love them from a distance, except for dogs and occasionally cats that I love in person. Humans are not required to love animals. In fact animals were created for man as… Continue reading Must Love Dogs

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Stories are all we have in the end.

“We are all stories in the end, just make it a good one eh?”― The 11th Doctor Matt Smith I love this quote from Doctor Who because it is true. All we are at the end of life is the stories told about the good and bad of us. It is up to us to… Continue reading Stories are all we have in the end.

Adulting, Be Radical, Books, Dreams, Grand Adventure, Human, Thoughts, Words

Do you read?

Do you read? Books are all the things you’re thinking of right now. Books are movies in your mind’s eye while you are reading. They are tickets to far away lands, windows into other humans’ lives and vessels to worlds unknown. Books are a way to connect with other people who share the same interests… Continue reading Do you read?

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Slow Yourself Down

If you don’t slow yourself down life has a way of doing it for you. Even if the timing is bad, rest when you need it. Because when life throws something at you to slow you down the time it happens is always inconvenient.

Adulting, Day Job, Goals, Happy, Human, Looking Forward, Truth

All I Wanna Do

I don’t want to be a responsible adult today. I want to sit on the sofa with my husband and dog watching old crime dramas eating junk food and drinking sweet tea. Where am I? At work being a responsible human. Y’all feel my pain? Harley Quinn the staffy

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Waiting for the Rest

I’m not sure why we seem to wait for the rest of our life. Oh, it’s not obvious. It’s hidden in the other things. When I loose weight... When I get a better job...When I get older...When I find my person...When I retire... What are we waiting for? Let’s live our best life now.

Adulting, Etiquette, Grand Adventure, Human, Life, Respect

House Dirt Makes me Grumpy

Dirt. Dust. Trash. Ugh! Why is this world so dirty? Why can’t humans be cleaner and neater. If all of us simply cleaned up after ourselves life would be cleaner and I would be less grumpy. Can you relate?

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Do What You Dare

Is there anything you want to do that someone has said to you that you can’t do it? Is there any harm in it for you or anyone else? No? Well then, is it something that will make you happy or simply bring joy? Yes? Do it. Don’t listen to those who have no courage… Continue reading Do What You Dare