Being a human #107 Protect and provide for the littles. Yours, mine, ours, someone’s kid....makes no difference. Couples make this mistake of putting themselves or their significant other’s needs before the littles. You and your partner are a team. A unit. You are not “me and they”. You are “we”. It is that “we” who… Continue reading Day 107
Being a human #106 Accept that many things are beyond human control. The sooner you stop fighting to control it all the happier you’ll be.
Being a human #105 Read the signs. Literally and intuitively. Look up at the world in front of you, things are obvious. We spend too much time focused on one point of vision we miss the important things. If you pay attention to the details around you, you will see what wonders you have been… Continue reading Day 105
Being a human #104 Love other humans for the simple fact they are human. No conditions. You do not have to like what they do, what they stand for, or who they are to love them. Do what YOU do in love! To be human is to love unconditionally. This is one fact we get… Continue reading Day 104
Being a human #103 Use the brain in your head. While society in the current state circles the drain, I am smart enough to make my own decisions. I can think for myself and not allow myself be tube fed what society wants me to think. I have a choice. I have options. All humans… Continue reading Day 103
Being a human #102 Respect yourself and others. You don’t have to like someone to show them respect. Your actions and words of respect reflect your character values not the recipient’s morals. The other person doesn’t have to show you respect in return. That’s on them not you. Respect yourself. Aren’t you worth as much… Continue reading Day 102
Being a human 101 Always be honest. Those who don't like your honestly will remove themselves from your life. Those humans who appreciate your honesty will let you know. Always being honest does not give you permission to be cruel. Be an honest human.
Your disposition is a personal choice. When you wake up feeling bad, you can choose to push that attitude onto others or you can choose to be happy. You can decide to be in a better mood or hang on to that bad one all day. If someone bumps into you by mistake, you can… Continue reading Day 100
Tomorrow is a marked day, but today is a day worth living. Any day you wake up breathing is a good day. Live it like it’s your last.
Adulting not as much fun as my teenage self thought it would be. Adulting is difficult on a good day when everything is working out like it should. It seems impossible when it isn’t going at all like you thought. I get up, show up and step up. Y’all, I’m tired. Deep in my core… Continue reading Day 96
Loving a person doesn’t make them a good human. Giving a person kindness and showing them that they are loved can sometimes cause goodness to manifest in a human. Sometimes a bad human is just a bad person no matter how much they are loved or how kind you are to them. Only divine love… Continue reading Day 95
Easter. Jesus lives. He went to the darkest of places for three days. He returned to his disciples. He said to them, “Why are you startled? Why are doubts arising in your hearts? Look at my hands and my feet. It’s really me! Touch me and see, for a ghost doesn’t have flesh and bones… Continue reading Day 94
If you want to see a positive change in your life you have to actually be positive and act in a positive way. You can't expect things to be positive. Life doesn't work that way. Don't wait for others to change things for you or for other humans to change to suit you. How does… Continue reading Day 93
Relocating. Moving. Packing. Taping. Boxing up things. Let me say this loud so those in the back can hear. I NEVER want to do this again. I don't care how amazing a new location will be. I don't care how fantastic the opportunity will be. The next time I am forced to relocate. It will… Continue reading Day 92
Wise words from my better half, Brendan O’Gara “Reset. Readjust. Restart. Refocus. As many times as you need to. Just do not quit.”
Last day of March. Decisions have been made. Sitting at a crossroads, one last decision to make once we get one more answer from an outsider. Did I mention that I am not good at waiting?
I admit it. I am a book snob. A book in the hand is better than a book on a screen. I have a dirty little secret. I cheat on my books with audio books in the car. It’s my guilty pleasure. Let’s keep that just between us.
In 1988 I was nineteen years old. I decided I knew better than the adults in my life. I was an adult. I got married and had a baby. I needed nothing and no one to tell me what to do. I was the smartest person I knew. I was wrong.
I have back ups to my back up plans. I am currently on Plan D and thankfully there are 22 letters left in the alphabet. Isn't that how life goes? Once you think you have a plan and it is all going according to said plan, God laughs. Just remember to bend when the change… Continue reading Day 87
Today we had a No Screen Day. It was challenging and fun. We went to a park and played, had a picnic lunch, and went to a bookstore. When we got home we read and napped. I found that I was the one who missed my screen. The kids didn't even ask until we were… Continue reading Day 86
Due to concerns about copyright infringement, the O'Garas will offer ebooks directly to readers rather than through a third party retailer. Paperback editions sold online exclusively through Amazon and locally at a few choice retailers. Ebooks available directly from the O’Garas. Contact us for more information.
Today is my 19260th day being alive. I still feel like a child in my head. An educated, experienced but young person lives in my aging traitorous body. I refuse to let age dictate my happiness.
Don’t let what is happening around you and what is being disputed in the media turn you into a hermit. Life is always going to have elements that are scary and unnerving. Don’t let that sort of thing make you hide away. Don’t stop living, but be safe about it.
Once in a while you must step out of time. It’s those moments when you have been reading, watching a movie, playing, singing, or some other sort of thought occupying thing that causes you to lose track of time. You look up at the clock and are surprised that a significant amount of time has… Continue reading Day 82
It’s true you should not waste money. It’s not the most important resource you shouldn’t waste. If you spend all your money on fun you can always go to work and make more money. Contrary to what most humans think, money is not an exhaustible resource. You may find yourself without money. A resourceful human… Continue reading Day 81
Everyday I wake up. Pray. Listen. Plan. Work. Pray. Listen. Focus. Write. Pray. Trust. Listen. Rest. Repeat. This is how I get through each day. Sometimes work is replaced with play. Pray. Listen. Live. Rest. Repeat.
In 1979 my mom and dad got divorced. Mom and I moved back to Florida from Texas. Florida is home to me. It is home to my mom and it was home to my dad. My dad never left Texas. He married my step mother there. My oldest daughter left Florida for Texas. She says… Continue reading Day 79
Actions speak a louder truth than the truth you speak with your voice. Show me what is important to you by what you do, not what you say. Show me who you really are, don’t tell me.
Sometimes you just have to sigh and say “Oh Lord” and let God take it from there. Today is one of those days. Breathe and let go. God’s got this.
Saint Patrick was no saint. There really aren’t saints. People are inherently bad. We are as a species self centered. Most of what motivates humans is the need to survive. It takes ruling over your natural self with your spiritual self to be a saintly human. It’s not easy to be a nice human. Do… Continue reading Day 76
Today 34 years ago I became a mother. It is a scary, thrilling, beautiful thing to be. You are always a parent once you become one. It isn’t something you ever finish doing or being. Some humans walk away. Better to stay gone if you can’t commit to forever. Tiny humans deserve your best self… Continue reading Day 75
Have you heard it said that it is darkest right before dawn? I suppose that’s true. What I do know is right when you think your situation can’t get any worse, it will. The catch is to stay with what you know is true and let things happen as it will. Do the right thing… Continue reading Day 74
What are you good at? What is it that you love to do? Are your talents and your love in the same field? It makes for a happy life if you are good at what you do. Work at it. Get better. Make it a priority. Then use what you are good at, what you… Continue reading Day 73
How bad do you want it? If you really want something you will find a way. There will always be obstacles to work around. If it’s something important to you, the way will be found.
Casual hobbies are a must for relaxing your brain. Even those past times that seem violent on the surface will relax the participants. Archery, target shooting, football, boxing, gaming or competition knitting. Find your way to relax. Don’t worry about the naysayers. They can find their own zen.
The number 7 is a lucky number for some people. I’m not superstitious about numbers and I don’t believe in luck. Luck is an excuse for people to complain. They say “I’m unlucky” when in reality they didn’t prepare for the unexpected or they ignored that still small voice of reason. Make your own luck.… Continue reading Day 70
So many time I wander around in my fog filled mind. I’m irritated because there is so much stuff I want to do but can’t seem to find the time to get it done. Books to read and write, things to learn and adventures to take. Can someone please slow down the clock already? How… Continue reading Day 69
Be kind when dealing with older humans. It’s very easy for them to get confused. Don’t assume that because they misremembered something that they have dementia. They may just be tired or distracted. Be respectful. One day you will be the old person.
March is a sneaky month. You think it’s all sun and spring time. Next thing you know you’re searching the closet for the sweater you thought you didn’t need. I love March. Where is that sweater?
Since my family and I are in the middle of a relocation, I have packed most of my clothes. I left out about a quarter of my clothing. I have learned that I do not need so many clothes. With the limited wardrobe items I am still dressed comfortably as I am every day with… Continue reading Day 66
Sometimes you just need to look at the stars and remember how small your problems really are. You are but a speck in the universe and yet you are important. You, not your problems. Remember who you are and why you are here.
One adulting skill that does not come naturally is adaptability. You must learn to move and adjust your sails on the raging ocean that is this life. There is a difference when talking about evolution and adapting. You do not need to evolve into a different human type. Stay true to who you are; however,… Continue reading Day 64
Today is the day I officially start a new writing project. It’s easy when starting any project to feel overwhelmed. Keeping things organized and in perspective helps ward off anxiety. Adulting is hard. Which is strange to say because I feel the same in my brain as I did when I was in my twenties.… Continue reading Day 63
Take care of your business. Wash your laundry. Take a shower. Get a job. Go to work. Pay your taxes. Buy groceries. Fill your fridge. Take responsibility for yourself. Then play. Be an adult and have fun doing it.
Sometimes it just all about the sweets. I am supposed to be watching my sugar intake. Yeah yeah yeah.... I just want to eat cake. Why is it all the yummy stuff in life is bad for you?
Be brave. When you think you just can’t do that thing you must do, call on all the courage you have and get it done. Ask yourself, is it the right thing to do? Yes? Good. What’s the worst thing that could happen? Maybe you fail, so what you’ve failed before and come back better.… Continue reading Day 60
Anger is a normal part of life. We have to learn how to deal with it just like we learn how to be happy. Some of us get angry only once a week but others get angry everyday. You may disagree and say that emotions are not learned, humans feel them. True we feel emotions;… Continue reading Day 59
Some days you just need to rest. If you’re tired...nap. If you’re sleepy...sleep. If your brain is full of unorganized chaos...turn it off for a few minutes with a short eyes closed pause. Give your mind what it needs.
Life does weird things to your physical self. The food we eat, air we breathe, and other planetary factors affect humans in good and bad ways. Drink more water. Eat less junk. Rest when you’re tired. Go barefoot when you can. Do whatever is possible to keep your physical self healthy. Easier said than done.
I’ve heard it said that humans should not involve themselves in spiritual matters they do not understand. I would go as far to say they should not dable in things they think they understand. There is a reason that humans are warned not to turn to mediums or spiritists; do not seek them out to… Continue reading Day 56
What happens when you throw caution to the wind and watch it blow away? Do that thing you have been thinking about forever. Jump off that what if train. Maybe you fall face first in the dirt. Maybe you don’t. One thing I know for sure, if you don’t jump you will never know.