Brendan & Lori O'Gara

There are forces of nature that are set firm. The laws of physics are one example. Truth is a natural law.

No matter what you do to hide it truth will not stay hidden. You can lie and stretch it, or here’s a good one ignore it, however it will not stay hidden. It may take months, years or even generations for the truth to come out, but it will come from the dark place that a human tried to exile it.

What’s more, truth is better acknowledged as soon as possible rather than ignored or hidden for long. The ramifications, the consequences of hiding it or ignoring it multiply. It is like a pressure cooker, oh excuse me it is called an instapot now. It builds until the one thing that breaks the seal lets the truth escape from its hiding place. Then, boom.

Humans are forced to deal with it. The hurt or clean up from the release is often a thousand times worse than it would have been if taken care of at the start.

We tend to forget about the reality of pain from a lie. We hear horror stories sometimes about men who have second secret families or children find out they were adopted. We read stories of cheating spouses, hidden debt, crimes and other sorts of ugly truths. The emotional fallout of these lies is devastating. It isn’t only the lie of omission but the time it is hidden that increases the hurt.

Someone dear to me lied for years about something that if I had known from the beginning it would not have been as big a deal. I would have dealt with it and moved on.

I have lied. I have lied about small things and huge things. Every time the truth came out, someone was hurt. Sometimes the someone was me. After the last time I lied and hurt someone, I made a promise to God and to everyone around me that I will always be honest.

I am honest to my family, in my work, and in my writing. What you see is what you get. If you ask me a question I will tell you the truth, so be sure you really want to know the answer before you ask.

Truth will not hide. It will come out.

Truth can not control the release of itself, you human control the light of truth. You can hide it, dim it, and lie about it. You can not extinguish it.

Let the truth be your torch. Let the truth be your goal. Learn tact, learn the skill of honesty that is a little less traumatic and freeing.

Always be honest.

~Lori O’Gara