My oldest daughter, Amandagrace said this, “You know what wisdom is? Its realizing that no matter how hard you yell at a rock ordering it to be a tree that it can only ever be a rock. Some people will keep yelling and cussing at that rock, pissed off that it isn’t a tree. Once you realize how futile your attempts are and accept it for the rock that it is, only then are you wise.”
Trying to change someone into something they are not is not smart on your part. Leave your humans alone. Let them be who they are.
Guide them , yes. Love them, yes. Force them, no.
A tree is a tree. A rock is a rock. A person is who they are no matter what you want them to be.
Listen to Amandagrace, she is wise.