Brendan & Lori O'Gara

Is it possible for a person to save another who didn’t know they needed saving?

We look at all the social media that screams at us with lies about our self-worth. Not all the messages we get are negative, some are positive. Most of the positive ones are inflated. We see articles, inspirational quotes that tell us we are strong enough and we do not need anyone to save us.

According to Psychology Today, 1 in 4 Americans report not having that one a single person to talk to about important issues. Also that loneliness among American adults has increased 16 percent in the last decade. Social media users worldwide in 2018 up 3.196 billion, up 13 percent year-on-year.

Bottom line, we are more social, more isolated, and more alone.

I was one of those people who had many friends and no one to talk to. As my life spiraled into a pit of hopelessness and loneliness, I accept things as normal. Life for me was just like that crazy Groundhog Day movie. Same, same, same….over and over and over…Complacent? Yes, that is what I had become. Not only me but everyone in my day to day life seemed to be complacent or self-absorbed.

When circumstances changed and I was forced to take a long hard look at myself, what I saw was a depressed shell of who I was meant to be, but more than that I was broken.

My husband’s love saved me. He put the broken pieces together.

Here’s the thing, I had no idea how mentally unstable and sick I had become because of allowing my life to be complacent. I did not know what I needed until he found me. He taught me that love comes first. Love yourself and then you can love someone else.

Survival for me looks like love and a marriage that is my number one priority. Respect and peace. Followed by a regular job to pay the bills. A dream of being an author fulfilled.

By putting myself, the health of my spirit first, I am a survivor.

~Lori O’Gara

P.S. If you send me a letter I will write you one back.

* Photo by Yoann Boyer on Unsplash