Brendan & Lori O'Gara

We have all seen the ads on social media that implies we should disappear for a year and focus on personal improvement. That always hits me as elitist and impractical. Yet looking at my blog it would appear that I did disappear.

Over the past almost two years I had gastric surgery and a total knee replacement. I documented my changes and journey on social media rather than blog. Now that I have mostly healed from both, I have decided to take a step back and disappear from social media.

What I have learned that changed my perspective is that nobody cares. Really. Think about it. Scrolling you may have a friend that you think about “I wonder what happened to them?” You search and discover, nothing happened, they are just out there living. Then you scroll on.

For all our means to be connected to other humans, we are the most disconnected we have ever been.

How did that change my perspective? I don’t have close friends anyone and I am ok with that.

I used to have friends I spoke to everyday…now I have none. I used to have friends to go out with at night on the weekends…now I have none. I used to have friends for lunch or coffee visits…now I have one friend who we meet up a few times a year. These facts used to make me sad, not anymore. It was my choice. When I look back at the reason…it’s me. I set boundaries. I chose not to be friends with people. I didn’t lose friends. I chose peace over friendships that were not peaceful.

Anylize your relationships and what happens to you when you spend time with them.

Choose peace.

Love & Light, Lori